I don’t wanna go back to the past or even think or be reminded about it... Since its history, den let it be forever… permanent like this till the day I leave this earth for heaven …to be with my dear daddy.

All I wanna do  is  to enjoy every moment of my life to the fullest. Learn all the things that I am interested in… take up all the courses I can possibly take up and fill up my collection of certs to the brim… Im gonna learn motorcycle. Full D&M sponsorship again…. Hehehee… always…  =X

Most importantly travel to all the various interesting and exciting places the Lord has created for us to have pleasure in and really see the enchanting earth that the Lord has made….I love to travel and that has been implanted into me since I was 18. The reason I work hard for is for me to have the money to build my future family and for my ultimate hobby- to travel…. Though it seems like… “When can I ever safe enough to travel here or there.. or even.. where will I get $ for this or that?” but.. most importantly.. I think it’s the Lord’s favour and blessing to be upon me… I believe that all things are possible through Christ. !

Travel destinations I wanna go…

1)Taiwan- im going in december! Weee!

2)Japan

3)Las Vegas.. USA lah… lolx (I want to go on a road trip!)

4) Egypt

5)Bali

6)Chiang mai

7)Maldives!!!!!!

8)Alaska!

9)Valencia… Madrid….

10) the list goes on…. Lolx..

love. i

lovng a person is never easy. coz when u really fall deeply in love with that person .. u'll just do many crazy things for that person and many times.. u'll go crazy if that person doesn't reply u.. or if the person just ignores u..... or even after u've quarrelled n the relationship has not been mended..... Or even if your bf or gf talks or even gets friendly with another girl/ boy.. u'll get hopping mad... Why does God put love into out lifes..? if he made us just to like each other... wad will the world be now?

anyway... Congrats to dear for your graduation! I noticed sth by the way.... u don't really smile in ur fotos..? hmmm... u should really smile more...... Smiling makes u look slimmer and more charming larh! smile more ok...? Photos are moments of happiness that you want to capture and remember for the rest of ur life.. therefore... u should smile more yah? den u can keep all these beautiful smiles and memories forever... k? =)

haix. i guess its AMCS...

its probably my after-menses-come syndrome...silly me just googling this...(below) why do girls compare with their bf's ex's......seriously, i think its really dumb of me to be spending so much time doing this when i should be doing my projects! somehow I should be acting cool about his ex-es. but its never easy. coz girls are easily jealous. and seriously, i dun wan to see her anywhere around. It spoils my appetite.  but on the other hand... i have to be gracious.. sometimes i really wonder how my good friend does this but maybe she is just in a different situation from me coz she does not see that girl at all.! anyway im just gonna use less facebook and more of my blog to minimise damage to my relationship.... now i kind of understand why u did all those terrible stuff to me.. coz maybe u love me a lot? or isit me that just getting affected by u... seems like this is the after-effect of my past. but ok. im determine not to talk about V anymore. no more talking about ur ex-es. just talking about u, me and our future. I really think my birthday gift really has a v gd meaning... the past present and future. But. now all i want is present and future...... NO MORE DWELLING IN the PAST.

I dunno why when it comes to the middle of the week, i'll just miss u a lot and maybe that's y i start to  think too much and den want attention from u. and when u dun wan to reply me... i just get so upset. Sometimes i really wish that i din love u dat much and that would be good coz den our relationship can be v much smoother... just like we were in the start. but yah as i promised... im not gonna talk about the past anymore. just like u not minding my past... i'll do so as such...

No need to block anyone or stop going DBG ..... coz i promise.. this is the last time im gonna get paranoid about this.. and i AM GOING TO KEEP THIS PROMISE...

Loving a person is accepting his/her past.... and embracing the present + future....

From today i'm gonna start keeping fit.. no time to think of rubbish! =D

why do girls compare themselves to their boyfriend's ex-girlfriend?

I recently found my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend on facebook and have been looking at her profile a lot. I know it's creepy you don't have to tell me. The thing is I get sad that she looks like she is a lot of fun and knows how to have a really good time when me and the boyfriend don't do a lot of exciting things, we just hang out or watch movies at home. in all her pictures she's drinking at college and partying. I worry that i'm too boring for my man compared to her. Of course it doesn't help that she's GORGEOUS and I'm just "pretty".
Ladies, why do some of us get so curious about our man's exes?

• 2 years ago

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P.S. I saw an email he wrote her last week where he sais he misses her and thinks about her a lot even though it's been a year since they broke up. That's how I found her on FB.

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Psychologically, I think its because girls are brought up to constantly compete with each other and compare themselves to each other... we're made to feel like if we aren't the absolute best, we might as well be worthless.
Especially if you really like a guy, most girls I know tend to be a little insecure about whether or not they were the best thing that ever happened to their guy. Unfortunately, its a natural feeling.
I'm kind of in the same situation right now...My boyfriend is 26 and I'm only 18, so since the beginning, I've been insecure about his motives for dating me. I recently found out his ex-girlfriend, that he had been seeing for over 2 years before meeting me, was a stripper, and is now a model. I wasn't sure how I was supposed to compare to that. LIke you said, I'm considered 'pretty', and she's stunningly beautiful. I went through a couple weeks of feeling pretty inadequate.
I finally talked to one of my guy friends about it and I think he put it best: " There's a reason she's his EX-girlfriend. Whether because she was psycho, or he found out she was a horrible person, or because she's unintelligent, or maybe because she's not as pretty in real life as she seems to be in pictures.... there's a reason they broke up, and if he wanted to still be with her, chances are, they would still be together. The fact that he's dating you and not her shows there's something WAY more attractive about you than her to him."
It sucks you had to read that message, but chances are, there's a good explanation for what he wrote. It might be hard, but I really think you're best option right now, is to ask him directly whether or not he still has feelings for his ex, and if so, why.

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jiayou!

We had a fun time bbq-ing. Thanks dear for helping to start the fire. I seriously have no skill in that. =X

Im so happy coz mum bought me a diamond necklace and that’s for my coming 21^st birthday! I am so excited.

Somehow, shopping therapy does help me recover. I was down with serious sore throat and flu yesterday till this morning. After being engrossed in choosing my present… I kinda recovered unconsciously. Hahahahaha….

Man, I really gotta start revising my work and working on my projects on hand. My course is not slack… its really just me that’s slacking.. I should really get my butt moving…!!! I needa score for this year. Just 1 more year and im done with school…. I want ACE! 1^st class honours!

i need to work hard for my future...!

just another plain monday.

Having a sore throat and flu is really no fun. Im glad that my situation is still not as bad as the one i had few months ago where i was really stuck in bed for over a week. Thinking back.. i really hate those days... where all i do is lie in bed and vomit all the food i ever ate.... haix but back than i was way skinnier than what i am now.  sian... i need to get back to what i was.!

Today i was suppose to have a really pack day. but thank God... my student cancelled her tuition. so, i had a chance to rest at home and talk less coz my throat really hurts badly....

Now my boy is at DBG.... my hate-st place in singapore.. and so i am taking time to blog here again.

Lolx im not angry ok.. not jealous or upset dat u r at dbg.... really . just disturb u only kk... =)

hmmm tomorrow im not gonna go to school coz i've got to rest well to charge up for the projects up ahead..  bless me lord. i trust that you'll provide....

mum says she wanna go taiwan with me... yay! im gonna start planning soon!

Hmmm... larry needs to go for his jab soon ad sun bian see the vet for his skin. duno why i seem to think his skin condition isn't getting any better..... hope its not some bugs or wad. hhmmmm

this is my monday. I hope my tuesday can be better =)

best weekend!

hmm for one moment i was thinking... when i asked u if u were gonna continuing signing on after ur bond ends... u kinda like siam the question? or were u just plainly tired. hmm?

Anyway, I am so glad that you bought me tiger. It came as a surprise but also a confirmation that you are really listening to me when i talk to u. hahahahaa  not just one ear in, one ear out...

Im glad that with u, i have the freedom to blog. coz this is a very good tool for me to share things that i am either too shy to speak out or... say things that i am totally upset about... or things that i want to hint to u. wahahahaa.

Thank u so much for Friday... It came as a total shock of not knowing how to react... especially when i come out of the bathroom seeing that your face color changed. and from the fact that u told me that u went thru my fotos, letters, videos.. omg. i really cannot imagine how upset u could have been or u maybe were... Coz if it was me.. i'll probably be really upset. ok like wad u said. im a gal. thats y i will be damn upset about it.. but i know.. no matter how much u deny.. or try to cover up... to make me feel better... no one n that situation will feel happy about it and im glad that you can still comfort me in that situation. Your words of comfort and caring patience.... really did make me think.. omg....this man is so forgiving and i will wanna stay the rest of my life with this man who loves me so much to accept me for who i am despite my past.... and even after seeing all this.. he can still comfort me.. man...  i love him! hmm...Furthermore.. u bought me tiger the next day. omg.. I really love u sooooo much....u r so sweet.

really dear, thank u for loving me, being patient w me and making effort to come over to my place to spend time with me despite being sick. i really appreciate your effort. i love u.

hmmm....... so..... though really out of point but yah....

 I guess u really read my blog throughly. hahahahaa and took my advise well. ahahaha. Im not that tough to please i guess? coz i spell out what i like and don't ... practically how to please me? u have a guide who knows me well and she is always telling u how to date her in her blog....? whahaaha

Love is in the eye of the beholder....  u r my love and i only have eyes for u =)

Though i get upset over silly things easily.And  always try to get your attention by saying things that make u go crazy... but i really want u to know that  you are very important to me. So much so that i'l rack my brains hard to think of how to make u keep thinking of me the whole day..haahahhaa and i did just dat. hahahahaa sorry for being irritating.

Now im glad that now you are here by my side. Just that simple feeling that you are in the shower, that you are sleeping next door just makes me feel  elated . It is all these simple things dat make me feel that you are ohana to me. =)

Omg this is so true...lolx.

Things Guys Should Know About Girls

1. Don’t ever lie to us; we always find out.
2. We don’t enjoy talking dirty to you as much as you
enjoy listening.
3. Don’t say you understand when you don’t.
4. Girls are pretty, but yours is the Prettiest!
5. You don’t have PMS; don’t act like you know what it’s
like.
6. Saying something sweet might get you off the hook;
doing something sweet will always get you off the hook.
7. If you talk about having a big dick; we know you don’t.
8. Size does matter, but only to hoes; not girls that
want relationships.
9. We don’t like it when you act like Mr. Big.
10. A system in your car only impresses your homeboys not us.
11. No matter what you say, your ex-girlfriend is a hoe.
12. It’s good to be sensitive, sometimes.
13. If you did something wrong or even if you didn’t,
apologize.
14. Be spontaneous; dinner and a movie won’t always cut it.
15. We are self-conscious by nature; we can’t help it.
16. We are DrAmA queens.
17. Fashion police do exist.
18. Don’t ask us to give head; if you are nice you just might get it.
19. We absolutely DO NOT care about monster trucks, car
systems, paintball, or anything else you and your friends talk about.
20. Hugs and kisses must be given at all times.
21.eWe don’t shave our legs evryday so get over it.
22. Don’t make bets about us; we always find out.
23. Shave; no matter how cool you think your goatte or
beard or mustache looks, we hate it.
24. Even if you think it is cool to burp, fart, or emitt
other strange gases from your body, it is not.
25. Don’t compare our breasts with Pamela Anderson’s;
hers are fake, just remember that. ( u have a better shot
at ours than you ever will with hers)
26. It is not cool to shoot snot rockets.
27. We are beautiful at all times.
28. We will always think we are fat, so humor us and tell
us we aren’t.
29. You can shoot hoops, score a goal, knock down big
fat guys, and hit a little baseball with a stick, so why
the hell can’t you piss in the toilet and not on it.
30. Most importantly: we are always right; so don’t
forget it.

50 things most guys dont know about girls
1. Girls hate it when guys say perverted things.

2. Girls like to be told that they're beautiful, rather than hot, pretty, cute, or sexy. It just gives more meaning.

3. Girls love to feel special, even though they might not show it.

4. Girls talk about EVERYTHING with their girlfriends. So that means, you're possibly 90% of their conversation. And believe me, trash talking takes up most of it, unless you're a Greek god, which you're not.

5. When girls are online, they want the guy to instant message them first, and they literally burn up inside when they're not messaged. Of course, when they are messaged, they play it all cool and go "oh, hey" as if they just discovered your message.

6. Girls have a thing for guys who dress GQ.

7. Girls love it when guys are over 6 feet.

8. Girls find it awfully attractive when guys wear just a white t-shirt and jeans and yet they happen to look awesome in it.

9. Remember. Sense of humor. GIRLS LOVE GUYS WHO CAN MAKE THEM LAUGH.

10. Girls hate guys with bad hygiene. So put on that deodorant and clip those nails!

11. Girls love guys who know how to dance.

12. Girls love it when a guy pulls them close by the waist.

13. Girls go crazy when a guy smells good.

14. Girls hate cocky guys.

15. Usually, when a girl is sarcastically mean to you, it means they're attracted to you, but are afraid that they'll be showing too much.

16. A kiss on the hand with the right timing can be a REAL TURN-ON.

17. Girls have a thing for guys who sport blazers with a destroyed tee underneath.

18. Girls have a thing for guys who have messy sex hair.

19. Some girls can think about their crushes for 18+ hours straight. No exaggeration.

20. When a guy says something really sentimental, girls will remember it forever.

21. The smallest gestures, the smallest stares, and the smallest statements could make a girl's year. No joke.

22. Girls get embarassed easily, even if guys don't know what the hell just happened.

23. Girls daydream about their crushes. Like getting married, going on dates, kissing, etc. They just don't show it.

24. Girls HATE players.

25. Guys who can sing are a major turn on.

26. Guitarists are sexy.

27. When a girl is upset and wants you to listen, she wants you to listen. Don't give her advice unless she asks for it.

28. When a girl is crying, she feels a lot safer if you pull her close and tell her that everything is going to be alright.

29. Girls love it when guys say their name.

30. Girls don't like short tempered guys.

31. Sometimes girls just wish that guys would notice when they get a new haircut or if they're wearing eyeliner.

32. When a girl calls you her loser or her dork, it usually means she's attracted to you.

33. Girls find it a lot more romantic if you just fall asleep with them holding them with your arms rather than having a night of hot kinky sex.

34. Girls will never say I love you unless you say it first. But that doesn't mean she doesn't want to scream it from the top of her lungs.

35. Girls love confidence.

36. Girls don't like rock-hard guys. They like to know that guys can have a sensitive side too.

37. There comes a time when girls have needs too. Enough said.

38. A girl will cry over you a lot more than you think.

39. A girl's wounds can last awhile. And when I say awhile, I mean awhile.

40. Girls hate guys who smell bad.

41. When a girl cooks for you, you know you mean a lot to her.

42. Girls don't like it when you think other women are hot and say it so.

43. Eyeliner is a girl's essential product. Don't ever try to take it away from her.

44. Girls hate it, absolutely HATE IT when guys don't keep their promises. It throws them over the top.

45. Every girl fantasizes about her wedding. Her dress, her flowers, her shoes, her hair. More than you think.

46. Girls hate it when other girls flirt. Yet they flirt themselves too. Ah, the beauty of irony.

47. Girls will save instant message conversations when they like a guy.

48. A phone call, a text message, or a single Hershey's kiss will mean A LOT MORE than a bouquet of flowers and a box of chocolates on her birthday.

49. Every girl think she's pretty in one way or another. They just won't admit it.

50. Girls are VERY SELF-CONSCIOUS when it comes to their looks. No makeup is a very sensitive topic to them. ;P




Most importantly, girls love guys to do little bits and pieces of sweet things. Little gestures of wearing a necklace or ear ring for her, or even carrying her bag for her, even piggybacking her home when she is tired, rubbing her blueblack with zambak, or even buying her breakfast for her to eat during church... are just little things that make her hot over heels over u..  trust me. she will remember it and love u for it. but of coz.. girls are always greedy and want more... so, make that little effort to impress them. though it maybe very taxing but trust me. it will be all worth it. Coz when u put in 10% of effort for her, she  will put in 50% for u. She will love u and dote on u more than u may ever dote on her....Have u heard of this.. when a guy makes his wife happy. she will make sure he has a gd dinner prepared everyday without fail on the table. She will handle the kids well and get prepare his clothes, well ironed and all. and all he gotta do is just. love her. =)


Women are simple. you gotta love her and show her how much you love her.
No point loving her with all your hearts and soul but never ever showing or expressing it to her. She'll never know..... in fact she'll just think that you don't care. and when she thinks that this man just doesn't love her.. she'll leave him. She will then be in search again for a man who loves her... and most importantly.. expresses his love to her.

love. what is love..?

Loving a person means accepting this person for what she is. It means loving her despite of her flaws and short comings.... No one is perfect and  in a relationship ...it is about giving and taking. Though it sounds easy but it is never really that easy to do. Man by nature are selfish and self-centred. And therefore we always think of ourselves before the other party.

I have greatest respect to some parents and couples whom i have seen really abnormal patience and love for one another. It is not because they are born that way... to love the other party more than themselves... but instead they Choose to be that way.... Life are all about choices. I can choose to love a person or not. I can choose to break up or not. I can choose to treasure this person or not..... I believe that every single person has the right to choose his or her love. The person they want to be with.. the kind of love they want to give to the other party..... most importantly...


To love a person now.. is an emotion, a feeling. To love a person forever is a choice and decision that you make....

No dating couples, no married couples can ever guarantee or promise each other to love each other forever because people do change .. so do feelings...... though its really sad to hear this but... this is life. and the only person that promises us that he'll love us forever is Jesus and Im glad that I can rest in that love that he has for me and find security in it. =)

I had a gd time!

Life has never been better....  these 3 months with you is the best time I had in these couple of years. especially ever since im back from France....Though sometimes  or recently I've become more irritating. But thats really because.. I start to treat you like ohana... which means..family.. and that means nobody gets left behind...lolx.. omg i really love stitch!... ok back to the topic.. its.. just like how... many times i just love to come and squash my brother paul and grab my mummy's flabby arms. lolx. . you are important in my life and I enjoy irritating you.. i'll never leave you behind ... forgetting to irritate u... Wahahahahahahaa.

I do not like to hide stuff from you or even act dainty.. I like being with you coz I can be myself.... really myself. without putting up any mask or fake smiles..... especially forcing myself to change into someone that I am totally not. I am open and willing to work on our differences and change to make our relationship better. ... so.. i really hope that one day.. we'll be able to walk to that day... just like the lyrics and poem in this song.

 Footprints in the sand =)